Why someone would want to sit around, when the people being talked about aren’t there, and allege that a messianic family does not believe in the messiah is beyond me. If it is a simple question of whether it’s true or not, the best way to find out the truth is to approach that family and ask them directly. Right?
Well, hold on to your platform beds, because that’s not always how it goes. This weekend, my wife was present at a table where just such a conversation was going on. She was going to speak up right away, but another person at the table, who knew the family in question, spoke up first and told this gossiper that she was wrong and the allegations weren’t true.
Bad enough, right?
But what makes it worse is that the person brushed off the truth of the matter, saying, “Oh, I’m just repeating what I’ve been told by someone who should know.”
This person was told by both my wife and this third party that this was definitely a case of lashan hurah, and that she was hurting her witness by persisting. That’s about the time I arrived and left with my wife, so she’s not sure if the discussion ended there or not.
But really, how many times does a congregation need to be told to avoid gossip (bearing false witness) and engaging in lashan hurah (evil speech)? It’s a message that’s been shared several times on Shabbat morning and is even part of our bylaws.
It’s loose talk like this that led to many deaths when the children of Israel were in the wilderness. Evil speech and gossip kills any sense of safety and community. It must be avoided.



