I bet a GPS device would have come in handy back in Moses’ day, don’t you think? Here’s my commentary on Toldot. Or listen to it!
Shabbat Shalom.
Our parashah for today is Toldot, a Hebrew word that means “generations,” and covers Genesis chapter 25, verse 19 through chapter 28, verse 9. Now, this week’s Torah portion is rich with events that are deep, meaningful, full of symbolism and significance. We witness the birth of the twins who are so unlike each other – Esau and Jacob – and their struggle with each other for position from their birth well into their adult lives. And while there is a lot to learn from their story, today I would like to concentrate on a less explored and often overlooked aspect of this week’s Torah portion.
The situation I would like to spend our time on today begins in:
Genesis 26:7-11
When the men of that place asked him about his wife, he said, “She is my sister,” because he was afraid to say, “She is my wife.” He thought, “The men of this place might kill me on account of Rebekah, because she is beautiful.” When Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelech king of the Philistines looked down from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah. So Abimelech summoned Isaac and said, “She is really your wife! Why did you say, ‘She is my sister’?” Isaac answered him, “Because I thought I might lose my life on account of her.” Then Abimelech said, “What is this you have done to us? One of the men might well have slept with your wife, and you would have brought guilt upon us.” So Abimelech gave orders to all the people: “Anyone who molests this man or his wife shall surely be put to death.”
Now, does this story sound familiar at all? It should, because very similar episodes took place in the life of Isaac’s father, Abraham – not just once, but twice. In Genesis 12, Abram conspires with Sarai to tell the Egyptians he is her brother rather than her husband, because he fears they will kill him if he reveals himself as her husband rather than her brother, due to Sarai’s great beauty. Sure enough, Pharaoh abducts Sarai and attempts to take her as his wife, but the L-RD intervenes. The fact that Sarai was abducted despite Abram’s lie should have shown Abram that trusting in the L-RD, not in deception, was the key to his safety. After all, Abram’s lie did not prevent Sarai’s abduction, but it was the L-RD Himself who inflicted the house of Pharoah to prevent him from violating Sarai.
But did Abram learn his lesson? No, for in chapter 20, Abraham runs the same gambit while in Gerar. The leader there, Abimelech, responds more righteously than Pharaoh, but is offended by Abraham’s deception once he learns the truth.
So, lesson learned, right? No, for we see in this passage from Genesis 26 that Isaac has followed in the footsteps of his father Abraham, and tells Abimelech of Gerar that Rebecca is his sister and not his wife!
Now, this raises a lot of questions. Let’s begin with one of the simplest ones: who is this Abimelech, and just how old is this guy who is around long enough to be offered the same fib by both Abraham and Isaac, father and son? Well, we learn this from the:
Strong’s H0040 ‘Abiymelek
• Abimelech = “Melek is father” or “my father is king” 1) king of Gerar in Abraham’s time 2) king of Gath in David’s time; maybe title of Philistine kings
So, it could be that both Abraham and Isaac attempted the same deception on the same king of Gerar – for Abimelech was indeed a Philistine king – or, if the name is indeed a title rather than a name – like Pharaoh or Caesar – the perhaps Abraham and Isaac dealt with different men bearing the title of Abimelech – which means “my father is king.”
Now that this source of possible confusion is dealt with, let’s explore what this pattern teaches us. The pattern begins with Abraham, who lies not just once, but twice, about his wife being his sister. Of course, this is apparently a half-truth, for, as we read in:
Genesis 20:11-12
Abraham replied, “I said to myself, ‘There is surely no fear of God in this place, and they will kill me because of my wife.’ Besides, she really is my sister, the daughter of my father though not of my mother; and she became my wife.
So, Abraham’s wife was his half-sister; it wasn’t a complete lie, but it wasn’t exactly the truth, either. However, this is not the case with Isaac and Rebecca. You see, Abraham had a brother, Nahor, and with his wife, Milcah, they had a son, Bethuel. Rebekah was the daughter of Bethuel. That means she’s the daughter of Abraham’s brother’s son. So Bethuel is Isaac’s cousin, and therefore Bethuel’s daughter Rebekah is Isaac’s second cousin – I think. All that first cousin, second cousin stuff has always made my head hurt.
Anyway, what is clear is that Rebekah is definitely not Isaac’s sister, as he claims to Abimelech. So why would Isaac make this completely untrue claim, when at least in his father’s case the claim was partially true?
Well, we do know that much of what people learn about how to interact with others and how to get along in the world is learned first and often most powerfully by the example set by parents. This is supported by this passage from:
Exodus 34:6-7
And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The L-RD, the L-RD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation.”
In this passage, where the L-RD is revealing his character to Moses, we see this phrase, that children are punished for the sins of the fathers for several generations from the original sin. A similar phrase shows up in the Ten Commands, which should tell us that the L-RD is sharing with us an important truth; and it’s a truth that goes against the conventional wisdom of the world: no sin is committed in a vacuum; it has consequences that can reverberate down throughout several generations.
The lie we too often tell ourselves when we allow ourselves to slip into a sinful choice is all too familiar, isn’t it? “Oh, well, no one will know. I’m only hurting myself.”
Yet that’s not the truth, is it? And it’s not just that the same sin is repeated, but it snowballs throughout the generations; it gets worse and worse and worse.
Consider the example of David, who is called a man after God’s own heart. His sin with Bathsheba was a major sin, but it was also one of the few times he did not obey the L-RD’s commands to that point in his life.
What was the cost to him? Most people would say that it’s the death of David and Bathsheba’s first-born son, the product of their initial, sinful union. But did it end there? No.
David’s core sins were wanting a woman who was not his wife, and committing murder to get her. Let’s look at David’s sons. One of them, Amnon, lusts after his own sister so much that he rapes her. In response, one of David’s other sons, Absalom, eventually kills Amnon out of a desire for vengeance that David never delivers himself. These are ripples of the same sins David committed, repeated in his sons, only magnified.
To this list, David’s son Solomon adds a sin of his own – worshipping false gods, despite ruling from Israel’s throne is wisdom and fairness and faith in the God of Israel for many of his years, because he disobeyed the L-RD when the L-RD told him not to take too many wives, for they would lead his heart astray and cause him to worship other gods.
By the time we get to the sons of Solomon, virtually none of them follow the L-RD, and sins like rape, murder and incest abound, as well as adding to that a split in the kingdom of Israel. It gets really messy quickly, doesn’t it? I think you get the idea.
And we can see this in our own lives and the lives of those we know, can’t we? A parent might read pornography; their child does that, plus is prone to affairs; the grandchild embraces even worse perversions.
Or perhaps a parent has an occasional drink or experiments with drugs; the child becomes a drunk or an addict and by the time the grandchildren grow up, there’s an unusual tendency toward all that and more – be it selling drugs or abusing loved ones. It continues and it snowballs if left unchecked.
Does the old excuse sound a little hollow yet? “Oh, no one will ever know. And besides, I’m only hurting myself.”
History argues against that; the Bible instructs against it. Abraham’s “little white lie” – telling a half-truth about how he was related to Sarah – is already turning into a full-fledged deception by the time his son, Isaac, is married. So, where does our help come from? Who can deliver us from this “body of sin and death?”
We read this cry for help in:
Psalm 79:8-9
Do not hold against us the sins of the fathers; may your mercy come quickly to meet us, for we are in desperate need. Help us, O God our Savior, for the glory of your name; deliver us and forgive our sins for Your name’s sake.
Those words are inspiring, especially for those of us who know Who our Savior, our Messiah, is. And the L-RD will indeed forgive us, just as He did David, just as He did Abraham and Isaac, just as He has throughout history.
Yet that inspiring Psalm was written by David who, although forgiven by God, saw so much generational corruption seep into the lives of his direct descendants. Sure, David is the “father” of Messiah Yeshua, but he is also the father of Amnon, Absalom and Solomon, isn’t he? What’s the missing element? Is it only trusting in Messiah Yeshua? After all, David lived generations before Yeshua; he didn’t have the Messiah like we do, right?
Not exactly. David had the promise of Messiah; the only difference between David and ourselves is that David looked forward to the promised Messiah, while we look back to the fulfilled promise of Messiah in the person of Yeshua.
So, what is the missing element? What can help us avoid David’s fate and escape our own generational curses? Well, notice that after David’s sin with Bathsheba, after losing his first son to her, his obedience begins to wane; by the time Amnon has raped his own half-sister, it is David’s lack of response, his lack of concern for judging Amnon that drives Absalom to murder. So could it be that he became less and less obedient to the Torah as time went on?
Gaining not just the forgiveness, but the favor of the L-RD has never been a mystery, it’s just challenging to live out, and a key reminder of how to gain the L-RD’s favor is found right here in this week’s parashah, as the L-RD speaks to Isaac in:
Genesis 26:3-5
Stay in this land for a while, and I will be with you and will bless you. For to you and your descendants I will give all these lands and will confirm the oath I swore to your father Abraham. I will make your descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and will give them all these lands, and through your offspring all nations on earth will be blessed, because Abraham obeyed me and kept my requirements, my commands, my decrees and my laws.”
There it is. That’s the key. Abraham obeyed the L-RD and kept His requirements and commands, His decrees and laws. While we need the forgiveness offered by Yeshua’s sacrifice to make up for our failings, the only way to minimize our failings, and therefore minimize the generational curses we pass on to our children, is to pursue not just salvation, but holy living – sanctification – by seeking to embrace the Torah of God, which is the mind and will of the L-RD for our lives, the mind and will of our Living Torah, the Messiah Yeshua.
Shabbat Shalom.